The blame game is in full effect as Alicia and Mateo each have their very separate realities and see the other party as wrong. Mateo blames Alicia’s temper for his habit of shutting down, and Alicia blows up when she feels like she’s the only responsible one in the relationship, or the only one who cares. Their lack of empathy and understanding about the other person's point of view results in their polarization. This wedge between them helps them stay convinced that the other’s behavior is the cause of their suffering -- can Rohini and Angus help them find understanding?
From narrow and self-focused perspectives, Alicia and Mateo justify their actions. From this state of mind, their thinking is distorted and they can’t see the whole picture. As they move toward more open-minded and open-hearted feelings, they gain the opportunity to see each other differently. Once they arrive in this space of greater trust, they access a more well-rounded perspective. The quality of their relationship actually reflects the quality of their individual states of mind.
This episode explores:
- The current status of Alicia and Mateo’s relationship.
- How Alicia and Mateo tell the tale of two different relationships.
- How a desire to protect optics in the face of friends and family can get in the way of being honest about what they are going through.
- How challenging it is for the relationship when both people feel discouraged.
- The importance of each person in the relationship having their own insight and transformation.
- The imp