Angus and I have neurological differences and this impacts our communication. I didn’t realize how often I get frustrated with him because I assume that he should process information in the same way I do until he faked having a conversation with me. He did this because he didn’t want me to get impatient with him. This was incredibly humbling for me, but also enlightening.
Angus on his side also realized that he criticized me out of defensiveness because he didn’t want to admit he hadn’t been listening. We share this because we hope our learning curve with our blind spots will help to illuminate the way forward for you as you navigate communication in your relationships.
No matter what, we know that kindness is the secret ingredient for effective communication.
Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” Listen to their podcast Rewilding Love. They believe too many good relationships fall apart because couples give up thinking their relationship problems can’t be solved. Many couples don’t know how to navigate low moods, conflict, and emotional reactivity. In this season of the Rewilding Love Podcast, Rohini and Angus help a couple on the brink of divorce due to conflict. Angus and Rohini love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by pointing them to their innate wisdom and wellbeing. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate private couples' intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love.