We struggled with conflict in our relationship. What was helpful for us was having a strong reference point for wellbeing that we knew we could bounce back to. This made it easier for us makeup and was instrumental in helping us to stay together. Understanding that conflict is a normal part of a relationship is helpful too. Seeing this means that when conflict arises you are less likely to beat yourself up and the whole relationship doesn't have to be brought into question. You can instead focus on self-soothing so you can return to peace within yourself. Getting back into that state of mind by letting your thinking settle makes it much easier to see how to reconnect and repair the rift in the relationship after conflict.
Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” Listen to their podcast Rewilding Love. They believe too many good relationships fall apart because couples give up thinking their relationship problems can’t be solved. Many couples don’t know how to navigate low moods, conflict, and emotional reactivity. In this season of the Rewilding Love Podcast, Rohini and Angus help a couple on the brink of divorce due to conflict. Angus and Rohini love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by pointing them to their innate wisdom and wellbeing. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate private couples' intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love.
Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: TheRewilders.org. Check out Rohini's latest blog post.