Do find yourself taking things personally? Do you get your feelings hurt easily? Are you told you are too sensitive? Do you think you need thicker skin? Actually, the solution is very different.
In this week's vlog, I’m answering a question about how not to take things personally.
Taking things personally means being offended or upset by what someone says or does because you think that their remarks or behavior are directed at you in particular. The term is often used when someone takes something personal when it wasn't directed at them.
However, there is even more freedom available when we don't take anything personally even if it is directed at us.
Don Miguel Ruiz's book The Four Agreements, the second agreement is "Don't Take Anything Personally."
Here is a quote from his book:
Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly; it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. Their point of view comes from all the programming they received during domestication.
Watch the vlog to hear more about how to take care of yourself when you do take something personally and how to become more antifragile in the process. This doesn't happen by getting a thicker skin.
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