We hope you enjoy this vlog where we successfully avoided a late-night fight because we were both able to not jump aboard the emotional turbulence train. Instead we let our minds settle so we could sleep.
But first Rohini wants to clarify that she does not keep the salt lamp on 24/7. She turns it off at night after getting in to bed, but not before she walks into the bedroom. This helps her to avoid walking into things and breaking them.
Onto the topic of this Vlog, the best way to avoid conflict is to not identify with painful thoughts and feelings. This can sound esoteric, so we are sharing a practical example that illustrates how we were able to not identifying with our negative thoughts and feelings and how this helped us avoid conflict.
This is very different than what we used to do. Rather than being the "silent witness" to our thoughts and feelings, we used to tinker with them. But tinkering and analyzing never helped us to find more peace of mind. Those habits would just get us more caught up and often result in conflict.
We hope you enjoy our giggly recollection.
Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” Listen to their podcast Rewilding Love. They believe too many good relationships fall apart because couples give up thinking their relationship problems can’t be solved. Many couples don’t know how to navigate low moods, conflict, and emotional reactivity. In this season of the Rewilding Love Podcast, Rohini and Angus help a couple on the brink of divorce due to conflict. Angus and Rohini love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by pointing them to their innate wisdom and wellbeing. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate a private couples' intensives retreat program that rewilds relationships back to their natural state of love.
Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: TheRewilders.org. Check out Rohini's latest blog post.