Having a partner who is struggling with low moods can be challenging. And because the focus of support is on the partner who is struggling, the other partner often forgets to take care of themself during this time and can spend an unhealthy amount of energy trying to help their partner who is having low moods. This can lead to depletion and feelings of resentment and frustration. Angus experienced this in his relationship with Rohini and had to learn that his wellbeing was not dependent on her feeling good. His ability to take care of himself and remain stable in the face of her suffering was ultimately much more supportive than when he was trying to cajole her out of her low mood.
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Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” Listen to their podcast Rewilding Love. They believe too many good relationships fall apart because couples give up thinking their relationship problems can’t be solved. Many couples don’t know how to navigate low moods, conflict, and emotional reactivity. In this season of the Rewilding Love Podcast, Rohini and Angus help a couple on the brink of divorce due to conflict. Angus and Rohini love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by pointing them to their innate wisdom and wellbeing. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate private couples' intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love.
Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: TheRewilders.org.