It seems obvious that it is fine to let someone have their emotional experience and give them space to have the dignity of their own experience, and even though we both know this intellectually we still can find ourselves getting pulled into each other’s emotional reactivity at times trying to fix things with the seeming intent of helping the other person. But really it is more to do with the discomfort of being around the other person and their emotions. Rohini woke up in the middle of one of the moments and realized, “I don’t need to be part of your meltdown.”

Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by pointing them to their innate wisdom and understanding. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate individualized couples intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of the free ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Rohini and Angus on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit therewilders.org.